So you’ve decided that you’re going to stray from the gift list, but are a little confused about where to start. You know you want your gift to be unusual but just need a few tips, to keep you on the right path. Don’t panic, because we’re here to offer our assistance. With a bit of thought, planning and consideration of the preferences of the soon to be married couple, we’re pretty sure you’re going to succeed. Unusual doesn’t have to mean completely off the wall. Choose this road and your choice of unusual wedding gifts is going to be so off the mark, It’ll be a gift that never sees the light of day after the wedding is over, or a gift voucher that never gets cashed in. And what would be worse than seeing the gift you bought the couple up for bidding on Ebay? It might surprise you to know that as many as 2/3 of gifts given for a wedding day, end up being sold again shortly after online. All the more reason to do all you can to find the perfect gift for the bride and groom.
Are there any Rules to Follow when it Comes to Wedding Gifts?
Are you thinking hang on a minute, I’ve already contributed with a gift at the bridal shower, engagement party and splashed out on the stag or hen do. Wondering whether there are any rules concerned with the giving of wedding gifts? Let’s fill you in…
- Are there are rules as to what you should spend? it really depends on how well you know the bride and groom. It used to be that wedding guests were expected to repay the couple the cost of the dinner, but unsurprisingly this isn’t very popular nowadays. You should also bear in mind what you can afford. It might seem a little odd if the couple are only acquaintances and you surprise them with a really extravagant gift. And it works the other way too. If you know them really well, or are closely related and give them something that is obviously inexpensive, or dare we say ‘cheap’, it’s going to raise a few eyebrows.
- When is it customary to give them their gift? It’s usual for there to be a gift table, laid out at the wedding reception party. If you’re unable to be there for their special day, you can send the gift to the parents, or choose a time to give your gift after the event. As long as you don’t leave it too long that is, one month later could be considered the limit.
- Can I give them money? This really depends on the bride and groom. Some couples would actually prefer to be given cash. Think about the couple who have already been living together for a number of years. They’ve already got everything they need for their marital home, so money will be a far better gift. That way they can choose to spend it on something they’ll want or an item they discover they can’t live without in the future. They could even put it towards the cost of their honeymoon.
Tips on Choosing Unique Wedding Gifts
Straying away from the recommended wedding gift list is a brave move to make. But follow a few simple rules, and you’re going to score big with the bride and groom.
- A gift for them both – a wedding is the union of two people, so why not give them a gift they can both enjoy. Experience days are a great gift, because they can enjoy it together. Provided of course you choose something that they’re both up for trying. White water rafting, tandem parachute jumps, dancing lessons, wine tasting or balloon rides are all up for grabs, along with heaps of others.
- Think about your relationship with the couple – if you’ve known the bride and groom for a substantial length of time and you consider them really close friends, you’re sure to have got some great memories. Find a gift that reminds them of your friendship and how they’ve always been there to support you. Do you have something sentimental tucked away that you can give them as an unusual wedding gift. For example a painting, photo or special momento that you won’t mind sharing.
- Can you put any of your skills to good use? – if your budget is looking a bit limited there’s nothing wrong with making something yourself. In fact it will make the gift all the more memorable. If you’re a bit of an artist you could paint them a picture. If you’re a bit of a whizz in the kitchen, why not bake them a cake? Or maybe you’re a bit of a poet or songwriter on the side. In which case an emotional poem or personalised song is bound to be considered a great wedding gift. You’ve put a lot of effort and time into making your unusual wedding gift, and that means they’re going to love it even more.
- Don’t get carried away – when you’re buying wedding gifts it’s all too easy to get carried away with moment. So ask yourself a few simple questions before you hand over the cash. Have they got room in their home for your unusual gift? Have they got enough time to really enjoy it? Are you thinking about an unusual wedding gift that is so big, you’re going to struggle to get it to the wedding reception?
There’s nothing wrong with looking for something unusual. Just keep the couples preferences at the forefront of your mind, and don’t choose something you’re not sure they’ll appreciate. Better to err on the side of caution, than buy them unusual wedding gifts they’ll be too embarrassed to have on show. Your gift is bound to come as a surprise, but it will clearly show that you’ve thought about them, and chosen a gift that will be remembered for many years to come.